Thoughts become Things

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Thoughts become things:When you stop worrying about the how and you start working towards what you want out of life then your life will change. You have to let go of the self-doubt and know that life is exactly what we think it to be. Change your thoughts and you will change your life.

If you think that you are broke and you think that you will never have enough money then that is exactly what will happen. You will think yourself into exactly that lifestyle. Get the negative out of your head and start to believe that you can truly create the life that you want.

I know that I say this in almost every blog that I write, because it’s the truth. Life is beautiful and amazing… If you decided to see it that way. We are all granted this beautiful ability to have what ever it is that we desire. We are all able beings that have the ability to choose exactly how we want our lives to be.

When you consciously make the decision to work towards a goal or something that you want then you create the mindset to create that life. You have to actively take a vow within yourself to change, to make good on the past and to work towards your happiness.

Happiness is a choice and something that is often taken for granted, because of the way we were raised. Or at least the way I was raised. I was always taught that you have to get a good job and stay there forever and then you will get a pension and be able to retire. I was brought up with the mentality that money doesn’t grow on trees. My father had an excavation company and money was good in the spring and summer. But once fall and winter hit, there was nothing, so all year-long we had to save in order to live through the winter.

I still find that when buying a pair of shoes or something that I feel is unnecessary, making the purchase gives me great anxiety. I guess that I have it engrained in me that I am broke and that I will always be broke. Even though I know that isn’t the truth.

Learning to overcome these thoughts are going to be hugely beneficial for my family. I know this. I consciously have to actively choose to believe that we always have enough. That we can always pay our bills and do what we need to do in order to live a happy successful life.

Every thought we have causes an effect in our lives, either a positive effect or a negative one. Just like there are always two sides to a coin. We can either choose to live positively or negatively, it’s the glass is half full affect.

What we choose to do with our mind and our thoughts is our own decision. With that decision we determine if we are going to live a happy and full life or a miserable and unfulfilled life.

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It’s all about learning emotional awareness and learning to choose thoughts that affect us in a positive happy light vs. choosing thoughts that are going to cause us more heartache and pain.

Once we learn to distance ourselves from these negative emotions we begin to take back our lives.

Everyday I work diligently on improving myself. I know that I am capable of moving mountains. I know with ever fiber in my being that if I put my mind to something I can have it. I have done it and I continue to do it frequently.

This is because I choose to believe that I am in control of my life. I am in control of the cause and effect of every decision that I make for myself and my family, and by being in control, I have taken control of my future, my life and my happiness.

This is the key to life, this is the key to undying happiness is taking control, taking the time to make a conscious effort to make good decisions to have good thoughts and to choose to think positively.

keep in mind that this is not something that happens over night. It takes time and consistancy. It takes daily practice and a conscious effort every single waking moment. You have to remove the negative thought from your mind. If you begin to think negatively or you begin to have self-doubt you have to make a conscious effort to remove these thoughts from your mind.

Know that you KNOW that you are the one in control of your emotions, KNOW also that you are the one who makes all the decisions in your life and KNOW that based on those decisions there will be outcomes that can be good or bad. We are the only ones that have any say or any control over what happens in our daily lives.

Yes, I do understand that there are going to be things that happen that are far out of our control. There will be natural disasters, deaths, job losses etc. I get it, but when these things happen we still have complete control over how we react to what is happening around us. We can act wisely or we can give up.

This is something that I work on daily. Because two years ago I was faced with this exact problem and I chose not to handle the death of my father in a positive way. I paid greatly for it too. With nearly losing my marriage, my life and my family.

So everyday I practice these exact thoughts. I know that I am in control of me and my mind and I can choose to be happy and successful or I can choose to have self-pity and do nothing all day.

It’s all a choice, and once we all realize that every thought we think, affects every decision that we make, and we make the effort to change our thought process our lives will change.

You have to believe in yourself, you have to believe that you deserve the life that you dream of and you have to believe that you can achieve that life. But believing isn’t enough unless you believe that you are enough and that you deserve the world, then you have to work towards creating that life.

You have to become motivated and you have to want to change. You have to work every single day at change, at growing and at becoming that person that you so wish to be. This transition isn’t going to take place the first day or the first week or over the next month, it could take years, but if you are consciously  and consistantly being positive it will happen and your life will be amazing. It’s all about how hard you work, how much passion you put into what it is that you are doing and how motivated you are.

Nothing is handed to us. We have to strive for everything that we want out of life. Having the “entitlement” complex isn’t going to get you from where you are to where it is that you want to be. You have to let go of that, and until you do, you won’t see the desired changes in your life.

Make a list of everything that you want out of life. Then write out what it is that you would have to do to make those things happen. You don’t need money to make your dreams come true. You need motivation to start, start on the things that will cost you zero, and build from there. You will be surprised just how easily things begin to fall together once you start.

But the key is, You have to start, You have to keep starting over and over. You can never give up. I know for a fact that you will reach the success that you desire if you choose to never give up. You may fail in the process, The Lord knows I have and that’s okay. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get back on the pony and ride.

That is one of the biggest mistakes people make, as soon as they feel like they are going to fail they quit. They never get up, they lay there and allow life to happen to them. Instead of making life happen for them.

You have to make that conscious effort to make life happen. Time is going to keep on ticking and if you choose not to do anything with that time then you will continue to waste away. But if you make an honest effort to use the life you have and the time you are given to create the life you want, then how can you fail?

See, I believe that this Heaven. This is heaven for my physical body. I won’t have the opportunity to live the life that I have in physical form as this person ever again. So why waste the time that I have here in this physical perfection, by being miserable and negative? When I die I want to know that I have done everything that I could do, I have seen everything that I could see and I have changed or impacted as many lives as I could with the time that I have had.

I want to do whatever it takes to enjoy life. To love my time here in Heaven in this Physical Body. We are all so blessed and we have all been given such an amazing gift. We have been given the gift of life, in a beautiful physical form so why waste it? Why not embrace what we have?

I know that every day when I wake up, I am blessed because there is air in my lungs and a beat in my heart, and for one more day I have the opportunity to love my children, to be the best wife and friend to my sweetheart that I can be. I have the gift of one more day on this beautiful earth and I am no longer choosing to take for granted that gift.

I am going to do whatever it takes to make sure that at the end of the day I have no regrets. That I feel that I was the best mom and wife I could be. I want to make sure that I helped at least one person in their life, in whatever way that I can. I want to know that I am making a difference in the world.

I don’t want to just endure to the end. I want to live and enjoy this slice of heaven that I have been given.

There is no reason to live in misery anymore. I’ve been there and done that. Nothing good came from any of it, thankfully I chose to take a second chance at life. I was given a second chance as a wife and a mother and I will be forever grateful.

Don’t allow misery and depression to consume you. Make a conscious effort to pull yourself out of the depths of your personal hell and give yourself a second chance at life.

This was the best decision that I ever made for myself. Everyday I am grateful, I am blessed and everyday I will work diligently to express to the world my gratitude by sharing my experience, by showing people that they can overcome adversity and that they can find happiness and success in life.

Life is Beautiful and Amazing and we all deserve to be happy, health and loved. We all deserve to have the kind of life that we want to have. I know this from the very depths of my soul.

I also, know that this life will not be handed to me. I have to work for it. I have to make the effort on a daily basis and I have to continue to choose to be happy, positive and motivated.

Start with baby steps. I know that when Garon and I started this process, he wore a rubber band on his wrist and anytime he thought a negative thought he would flick the band. I would tell myself that I was ruminating again and I would say it out loud. We also kept each other in check. This became a team effort for our family. We worked together so that neither one of us could fail.

Ways to become motivated: 

  • Get healthy, Go to the Dr., get a check up, go to the dentist get your teeth cleaned.
  • Deep clean your home and your car. Get rid of all the junk that you don’t need, remove all of the clutter from your life.
  • Take a shower, get ready for the day
  • Turn on positive uplifting music
  • Watch motivational videos on youtube
  • Start working out and eating healthy
  • Stop watching TV, the News and reading gossip, it serves no purpose except to expose you to more negativity.
  • Stop gossiping, find or spend time with friends that are uplifting and challenge you to be more, remove yourself from the negative people in your life.
  • Set boundaries with people, Say NO. Don’t worry about pleasing anyone but yourself.
  • Learn to love yourself! This is SO important, if you want to be successful at all this needs to be your number one priority.
  • Read something that you can learn from, listen to podcasts, follow motivational people on twitter, instagram and Facebook.
  • Find a mentor and work to incorporate things that they do into your life.
  • Take a moment each day and go for a walk, admire nature in its purest form.
  • Be grateful, and stay grateful for everything that happens in your day, whether good or bad, find a way to be grateful.

There are many different things that you can do to work towards changing your life. You don’t have to start on all of them at once. Pick one and work on it. Don’t focus on the whole thing, keep your goals in mind, but only focus on what you are trying to master then and there. It may be that you need to get out of bed and get dressed. Do that for two weeks before you add anything else, then get up, shower, get dressed, and brush your teeth. Only work on small baby steps until you know that you have your footing. The last thing you want to do, it to overwhelm yourself to the point you give up. That will get you no where.

For some of you, it may seem a little ridiculous to start with such baby steps and that is okay. But I know for me, just getting out of bed there for a while was about all I could handle.

So it’s whatever is going to work for you. But whatever you do, don’t give up. You can do this.
I have complete faith in you. I want to hear from you and I want to know what your story is. So Please leave me comments and let me know how you are doing.

One last thought, remember Successful people do what they have to do, whether they feel like it or not.

Until next time,

 

Jamie

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